The play Ive been enjoying lately

Lately I really enjoy going into a shared internal place where the masks of our civilised selves fall away and we act on our urges more directly, allowing real play to emerge, giving over to feelings and impulses – which can be raw, rough sexual feelings, but can also be joy, silliness, deep feelings of intimacy, feelings of deep tenderness, even sadness and grief…

And it’s been really powerful stuff.

It’s important that Im keeping an eye on the hard limits and reasonable boundaries… But even when I’ve been able to get close to that core, with as much of my logical, super-conscientious mind pushed towards the back ground as much as possible and still retain a degree of awareness and control, it’s still a very powerful place to be… as with causing a high enough degree of distress and intensity, my play partner can be brought to a nonverbal state pretty effectively.. and to some degree they take me with them

A high degree of trust is important to begin with – but its more than my play partner’s trust in me. What is also needed is that they trust themselves and the ability to let go into surrender is important also if they’re going to experience some level of this raw experience…

It doesn’t always happen, but it’s always a treat when it does.