9 Questions To Ask On Non-Monogamous Dates
Here is a list of questions to ask when dating and relating to non-monogamous people (especially poly people!). This isn’t a list I complied, but, upon reading it I feel…
Custom BDSM Furniture and Play Equipment
I have recently connected with Ring Dragon to offer custom BDSM Furniture and Play Equipment. Ring Dragon is passionate about the lifestyle and his craft and his equipment will withstand…
Stonewalling In Kink And Vanilla Relationships
People talk about gas-lighting a lot, and an aspect of gas-lighting came up the other day when I was working with a client. But instead of being gaslighted in the…
The Self, and overcoming life traps
Do you ever think, "I'm disappointed with myself; I thought I could do that, but I blew it," "I wish I felt better about myself," or "I'm so mad at…
Unconditional Love vs Conditional Love & How To Do It
PrefaceWriting this article has taken a lot of time and given me a headache. Because its hard to pin down what love is, let alone write about it and there…
Why We Need To Talk More About Shame & Self Esteem
I sit down to write this as I reflect on a recent therapy session I had on someone recently. There was a moment where she looked into my eyes and…
Protected: Erotica: ‘You Are Mine’ (Trigger warning – CNC based fantasy)
WARNING: If CNC (Consensual Non Consent) is triggering for you - Click away now.It was an uneasy silence in the car on the way back to the hotel room. An…
8 Signs Of Unhealed Trauma
There are many signs of unhealed trauma. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress from a situation that exceeds one's ability to cope. The three main…
What makes a great submissive? and for Dominants – How to vet a submissive?
‘I want to be a good submissive for my Dom/Domme - how do I become a good submissive?’ is a question I get asked from time to time. My initial…