There are many signs of unhealed trauma. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress from a situation that exceeds one’s ability to cope. The three main types of trauma are:
1. Acute trauma results from a single incident.
2. Chronic trauma is repeated and prolonged such as domestic violence or abuse.
3. Complex trauma is exposure to varied and multiple traumatic events, often of an invasive, interpersonal nature for eg. stemming from interpersonal experiences such as the death of a loved one, the end of a meaningful relationship or the rejection of a loved one.
Do you pretend that everything’s good when it really isn’t?
When you don’t have a positive and healthy way of dealing with your trauma you end up repressing your negative emotions. It can be hard to recognise unresolved trauma on the surface especially within ourselves, so here are 8 trauma signs you’re still suffering from unhealed trauma:
1. You resist positive change.
When something good comes into your life, is your first instinct to be suspicious of it? You have an innate feeling of shame or guilt whenever you allow yourself to grow attached to someone or celebrate your own success? If so you might be carrying unresolved trauma within you. You have a hard time accepting positive change and may even try to resist it at first because deep down inside you feel like you don’t deserve to be happy.
2. You have a strong fear of failure.
Being afraid of failure is a normal part of human nature. However, a strong fear of failure can be unhealthy if it starts to outweigh your motivation to succeed. Not only do you miss out on a lot of opportunities and stifle your creativity and ambition because of it, but it can also lead to perfectionism and insecurity. It might be instilled in you by unresolved trauma that causes you to have a negative belief in yourself and internalise your shortcomings.
3. You have a strong fear of success.
Alternately, repressed trauma can also manifest through a strong fear of success. Did you ever hold yourself back from getting something you wanted? Not because you feared you might not get it but because you feared what would happen when you did? You’re afraid of losing what you’ll have even before you achieve it. The tendency to unconsciously sabotage your own chances of success is often associated with those who were abandoned or lost a loved one at a young age.
4. You have difficulty concentrating.
Trauma has a lot of damaging psychological effects and it’s not uncommon for victims to suddenly have difficulty concentrating. If you’ve been having gaps in your memory, blacking out often, and finding it hard to keep your train of thought it might be your mind crying out to you for help – asking you to get help with your trauma.
5. You have trouble asking for help.
Do you have trouble opening up to others about what happened to you? If you’ve experienced some form of abuse or mistreatment you usually struggle with asking for help. You’d rather suffer in silence because you’re too afraid to reach out to someone else. You don’t want to be rejected denied judged or seen as weak by those around you.
6. You often hurt yourself or others.
You lash out at other people when you’re experiencing intense emotions. You push your loved ones away and isolate yourself whenever you have to deal with a problem. If you’re still hurting from unhealed trauma, there are times when you might end up taking it out on yourself or those who care about. You become emotionally volatile, out of control and overly sensitive. You lose your temper, break things, and may even resort to self-harm.
7. You struggle with low self-esteem
There are a lot of ways trauma can skew yourself image. Especially if it’s rooted in your early childhood experiences. Abuse, abandonment and neglect can all lead you to question your own self-worth. You struggle to feel good about yourself if the abuse was inflicted upon you by someone you loved. Studies have shown that patients with PTSD often suffer from low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness.
8. You have unexplained psychological symptoms
Do you feel more anxious and panicky than before? Do you find it hard to feel happy or find pleasure the things you used to enjoy? Have you lost your appetite or have trouble sleeping while at night? According to research – anxiety, depression, disassociation, depersonalisation, panic attacks, frequent flashbacks, nightmares and emotional distress are all common in patients with PTSD.
That concludes the list of trauma signs.
Have you or someone you love ever experienced a traumatic situation? If so, how do you plan to overcome it? If you’re still suffering from any lingering psychological trauma it’s important that you reach out to appropriate professionals ASAP and get the help you need. To get better healing from trauma takes effort, but, it’s worth it and it’s necessary in order to truly move forward in life and find some peace of mind.
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