“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.”
Lately I’ve been involved in interesting philosophically driven discussions.. and even though we live in a community, we have friends and share ideas and opinions we all still at some point of another on an individual level question the foundations of our life and essentially go through an existential crisis – with this crisis usually coming up more strongly after a relationship breakdown.. and irrespective of whatever advice we seek or questions we may ask – we are left with our respective individual philosophies.
So you have to know yourself, what inspires you, what motivates you and what you love to do that will get you up out of bed each morning and so you won’t be depressed.. giving you a greater purpose in life that is above and beyond a relationship. I strongly suggest that everyone that hasn’t already done so, to go out and find what inspires and fascinates you in life. It’s important to set your own goals and achievements – even if those goals are to live life as hedonistically as possible.
The problem we face in our modern society is that once a person has options in their life, they don’t lack choice and instead they have an overabundance of it. it can be hard for most people (especially men) to function outside of their working life cos they have too many options and they don’t know which ones to take .. and this is why a lot of people will focus on and look for a relationship/marriage and nothing else.. as they find it easier to follow through on a set of rigid roles and expectations for themselves and their life based on their relationship status.
Time will be structured so ‘purpose’ is never an issue… and more often than not, a weaker person’s individual philosophy end’s up being dictated by the more dominant (I mean.. dominant outside of a possible D/s dynamic) person in the relationship and they just end up fulfilling the needs of their partner as well as the needs of government, corporations and society at large. They are a slave to all these things and also afraid to choose the life they want on their own. Weak people end up adopting the philosophy of others and its harder to adopt your own path cos the destination is unknown – you don’t know how the story is going to end because a life worth living is a story untold. living a good and meaningful life and having a rich inner world means taking your own path.. a path that others will not envy cos simply they will not understand it.
If other people start thinking you are cool and they want to steal your mojo and the way that you live – then you have to move onto the next thing. due to the prevalent egoic nature of the self, everyone wants to feel special and important to some degree or another, and people want to be acknowledged for existing and being alive – but very few people are fearless enough to put themselves out there because they are afraid of failure and more importantly afraid of success. Usually and unfortunately, people that have a worthwhile philosophy will be ridiculed by people in their own generation but instead it’s up to future generations to thinking highly of them and put them in high regard (Nikola Tesla is a great example).
The greatest unknown is the one within, and most people are afraid to take the personal psychological or philosophical journey because of what it comes with.. usually they have to face an existential crisis first before they can grow – and most people don’t want to deal with the emotional and mental pain of the eureka moment cos it often means they have to face a new reality and if people want to face their own dreams, desires and goals alone and succeed at them .. whats next? most likely another existential crisis.
At least if a person fails then he can regret his decisions, but if you succeed and reach your intended or unintended destination then you face the fear of finding the fear of a new destination – it’s a never-ending journey and then you die. But instead, most people tend to plug themselves into family life and hide behind a collective and even if it isn’t real and just an illusion – they don’t have to face that existential crisis. for most people breaking down illusion after illusion in life is a painful process – it means the death of an older version of yourself and the birth of another – you hope that with each birth comes easier and you hope that as you grow the process of shedding your old skin, mind or persona then basically becomes more fulfilling and rewarding than before. its important to understand that when you find your own meaning and philosophy in your own life, then you need to find another at some point irrespective of how hard that may feel. I find the most interesting people are the ones addicted to facing existential crises.
Whenever I reach a critical point in my own personal understanding of reality, I often feel my brain reshape its neural pathways… and the feeling I get from my mind reshaping its form is the most addictive drug I can find.. and I admit I’m addicted to it. this is why some people are knowledge and information junkies.. because we seek to grow our own consciousness. I will admit that knowledge is just hedonism if you choose not to apply it and one day your brain will die and all that information and knowledge you have acquired will remain used – “To know and not to do is really not to know.” (Stephen R. Covey).
Getting back to personal philosophy, a youtube video I watched recently said ‘it doesn’t matter what destination someone preaches if that destination can’t be reached and that you need other people to follow in order to get to these new destinations’.
I feel it’s dangerous to spread this kinda message cos it suggests that everything has been done before and that people should follow the philosophical trails of others instead of making their own paths… I think most people are afraid to become the next Tyler Durdon or Neo from The Matrix movies.. or another character they look up to from popular culture as they want to become like their heroes but they can’t.. cos its too difficult to accept that reality is an illusion (like Neo does) for example. So most people live vicariously through those movie characters instead of dealing with their own and very personal existential crises.
After going through my own existential crises, I now look forward to the next one as I see them as a gift (even though they may be painful) as they push me to grow even further. I guess what I’m saying is.. is that it’s better to deal with not knowing your path in life than having your path dictated by simpy your relationship status and which can possibly put you in the most uncomfortable place… leaving you stuck with facing a crisis – but one not of your own making but of someone else’s… and at that point you won’t be able to grow through your own personal torment because you won’t be choosing it.. but you will have to be dealing with what someone else chooses instead (if you are the weaker ones in the relationship)… and I feel I would rather have a crisis of my own that can be solved instead of one created by someone else that may not have a solution. Embrace and dictate your own path – go your own way… by any and all means necessary.